Tantus Inc. Memorializes Alan in a Sex Toy

on Nov.28, 2015, under Everything Else

alantoyHey all, it’s been awhile, but do I have some news for you. Tantus Inc. contacted me today to let me know that they have created a new sex toy as a memorial to Alan, and what a toy it is!

They really went all-out on this one. It's the first of its kind, featuring not only the dual-density, realistic O2 silicone that so many of us love, but also a removable vibrator and suction cup as well. Check it out:

Alan would be grinning his arse off right about now, and I love, love, LOVE the promotional slogan they have for it: "Meet the Guy Next Door." That. Is so appropriate. Much love to Tantus for doing this for him :D

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Sex Toy Sales Alert

on Oct.04, 2014, under Toy Talk

Wow, it seems like everyone is gearing up for having a better-than-average good time this Halloween season since my eMail box was full of sex toy sales this morning. Just thought I’d share a few with you:

* GoodVibrations is offering a 20% discount on Men’s Sex Toys, but you’ll have to hurry on this one since it runs through this weekend only.

* Tantus is running a Buy-1-Get-1 at 50% butt plug sale through the month of October, and to sweeten this deal I noticed they just launched the new Perfect Plug. Great timing, you guys!

* Lovehoney has gone crazy with almost more sales than a body can keep up with. They have:
30% off 30 toys for Women  (I highly recommend the Bluebella Tease to anyone who likes clit toys)
30% off 30 toys for men  (I see Alan’s favorite Reversible Double Stroker on there)
A seriously nice selection of 3 for $25 stockings and hosiery
2 for $30 Bodystockings
3 for $20 sex toys and a whole lot more. I think it would be quicker just to send you to their Sales page and let you explore on your own. Enjoy!

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Erotic Role Playing Book Winners!

on Sep.21, 2014, under Contests

Wow! With 261 entries we had a really great turnout for this giveaway, and I’m pleased to announce the winners:

First Prize, which is a copy of the Beginner’s Guide to Erotic Role Playing, the Cupid G-spot vibrator, and a tube of Kama Sutra’s pleasure balm, goes to:

Rachel H.

Second Prize, which is one PDF scenario from the book, the Contoured Egg vibrator, and a tube of Kama Sutra’s  pleasure balm, goes to:

Bernie W.

Congratulations to both of you! Send me an eMail at A.andM.69 (at) hotmail (dot) com or use the Contact form here on the blog to arrange for your prizes to be delivered. And to everyone else: thank you for participating!

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The One Year Anniversary

on Sep.20, 2014, under Book Updates

The 17th marked the one year anniversary of Alan’s death and, as most of you know, my goal was to finish our role playing book and make him a published author by that date. It’s been a quirky journey, to say the least.

It wasn’t until June that I was able to collect myself enough to start seriously working on the book, at which time it became an obsession. I contacted an editor friend of ours and she took on the technical end of things, in spite of what seemed like an impossible deadline. Roughly half of the manuscript was done when Alan died, but I labored over every note we had for the remaining sections as I tried to form them into paragraphs. I didn’t want to lose any of his playful input, but at the same time I was having trouble with my own words. I’m not the same woman I was when this started, so in essence I was finishing a book whose original authors were gone.

In the end it was my editor who brought me through. She Skyped and phoned me relentlessly, pushing me for the next chapter, making me think about the form and structure Alan & I had planned, giving me a shoulder to cry on, and reminding me of who I am: Alan’s Michele. Bless her heart, I doubt if I’d have gotten it done without her.

I wrote on Alan’s computer, sometimes pausing to close my eyes and think of what he would say if he were there working beside me, and as you can see from the book’s links in the side bar here, it all came together.

On the day before the 17th I lit a candle and “spoke” to Alan, which is something that I’ve done often, though many of you may not understand. There were tears of course, but also an air of celebration over the completion of our book. I told him “We did it. We’re published authors now, you and I.” And outside, right in front of our house I saw this:


I think he approves.

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Lovehoney USB Mini Rabbit review

on Sep.11, 2014, under Vibrator Reviews

USB vibratorThe Lovehoney Flash Mini Rabbit Ears Vibrator is a USB rechargeable vibrator designed for those who like toys that are discreet in every way. Measuring less than 4″ long and weighing about at much as a decent ink pen, it’s easy to carry or store just about anywhere. I was tempted to say it would be easy to hide too, but since it looks nothing like a vibrator I doubt that it would raise any eyebrows even if it were out in plain view.
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Alan & Michele’s Book Giveaway!

on Sep.01, 2014, under Contests

As most of you know, Alan & I started our Beginner’s Guide to Erotic Role Playing book together last year, but he was gone before it was completed. I spent many months feeling angry at all the things that he never got to do in his short life before it hit me that this was one thing I could do, one piece of unfinished business that I could take to the finish line for him. And so I have.

September 17th marks the one year anniversary of his death. My goal has been to have our book published on that date. Why? Because in the midst of all the sadness I want there to be something to smile about, something that I know Alan would be grinning and giving a thumbs up over. Another part of him that lives on that I can share with the world. He and I shared more hot memories than could ever be written in 10 books, and hopefully this one will help others make some outstanding memories of their own.

So in anticipation of the September 17th publishing date, I’m hosting this giveaway to let the sharing begin! Continue reading…


About This Site

Please note that this was originally a couple's blog, named AlanandMichele. That domain was taken by an unknown buyer and I AM IN NO WAY ASSOCIATED WITH THAT DOMAIN OR THE CONTENT ON ITS SITE.

Alan and I were together for 23 years, happily exploring everything from exotic sex positions and sexual role playing to bondage and domination. We began reviewing sex toys for another site in 2009, and started this blog in 2010 so we could write about other things too. As it turned out, being part of the adult blogging community together was more enjoyable than either of us anticipated, and it became a regular part of our life together.

Alan died unexpectedly on Sept. 17, 2013, but he is still very much a part of my life. He and I always believed that the things we wrote about on here might help somebody somewhere enhance their sex lives, and it's with that in mind that I've continued this blog. I really don't know where this journey will take me, but I'll always be Alan's Michele.

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